the new adult wednesday addams webseries saved my life

Youtuber Melissa Hunter has created a whole new series that pretty much reflects an entire new generation of girls: wearing all black, and having none of your shit today.

 This webseries follows adult Wednesday Addams touches on contraversial topics like pro life vs. pro choice: 

She gives dating advice: 

She even dabbles in childcare: 

 Adult Wednesday Addams, you are my hero. 

February Favs pt1

Hi guys!!!!!! So I don't know if you've noticed but I've been super busy with work and school but the awesome part of working so much is I get to buy a bunch of new stuff and do reviews for you guys!!! So this month I totally went a lil crazy so I divided it into two posts!!!

1. Skinny Dip Pom Pom Earbuds

let me start by telling you that YES these are definitely ranked high on the list of cute things I own (and I own a lot) however, they're as inconvenient as they are cute )-: they come with those squishy attachable earbud things which is fine I don't really mind those, but it ALWAYS comes off in my bag or purse which sucks because the earbuds themselves don't really have anything to secure the squishys on with. So if you're all for fashion over functionality then these are for u! 

2. Tattify Temp Tattoos

I give these a five star rating!!!! This is the second time I've gotten these temp tats and you definitely get what you pay for with tattify. They have tons of different designs and they're all VERY good quality. I'm constantly getting compliments on my "tattoos" and how detailed they are LOL. I love tattoos and body piercings but unfortunately with my job I can't be as expressive with body art as I wish to be, these were a perfect quick fix. Not to mention they're awesome fashion accessories, they always set off whatever look i'm going for PERFECTLY! 

3. Marble Macbook Pro Decal (13in) 

This was particular buy was SO cool, I got mine for like 15 or 20 bucks off uniqfind. It's just a sticker decal but the print quality was awesome, it looks like real marble, the application was also super easy. I liked that it didn't make my laptop heavy or bulky like most cases do, so it's a lot easier to fit in my bag. 

4. LAVISH FUCK LOAFERS

Ok, so I know they sell this online and I saw it on tumblr like a couple years back, and recently when I went to Vegas on my last family trip I saw them in a shop on the strip for like fifty bucks. I didn't know at the time but it was a total steal, because nearly every site that sells the Y.R.U. loafers never sells them for less than $70! However, the quality of the shoes are insanely awesome, they've lasted me really long and haven't faded like a lot of my other loafers. I do recommend going a size smaller though because they run a lil big! :-) 

5. Valfré Carton of Boys Tears 3d phone case

This phone case is a little on the pricey side (I got mine for $42)  but again, it's really good quality!! Not to mention it's so cute and original. She now offers it for the iPhone 6 and has a bunch of other cute cases, paintings, shirts and so on. 

My Radical Self Love Bible

February is the month of love, and what better a person to love than yourself? I've officially made it a point to actively love myself and treat myself and honestly, date myself. I buy myself nice things, go to the movies alone, make an effort to get to know myself better. And recently, I started my own Radical Self Love Bible. If you follow me on instagram or twitter I'm sure you've seen a bunch of my post. I made this post to encourage you to make your own. Now I'm sure at this point you're asking what exactly is "The Radical Self Love Bible?"

The Radical Self Love Bible was a project started by blogger Gala Darling and the main objective is to get people to fill up a blank sketch book with feelings, thoughts, positivity in an effort to get to a palce where we love and accept ourselves. For more info check out her blog at galadarling.com

This project drastically helped me on the journey to loving myself, being able to create and write down thoughtful, kind words to myself helped me a great deal and all you need is a pen, some magazine clippings, glue and your thoughts. Let go and make art and have fun and get creative! Such a fun and amazing project :-)

Here are some examples/inspirations you can use your self love bible

Useful Shit You Should Know in Your 20's That No One Talks to You About

Growing up sucks.. It's really shitty and hard and emotionally exhausting on it's own but the most frustrating thing I've come across in early adulthood is this unspoken rule that I should know all this shit. Like at 18 a magical fairy comes into my room at night and places a crown of knowledge upon my head and just like that I can file my own taxes and not get an anxiety attack whenever I walk into DMV without my parents. As wonderful as that sounds THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS. So here's all of the things I've learned via fucking up until I got it right.


1. Take care of your health. 
I know this seems like a kind of duh tip. But take this into serious consideration. Are you physically active? Do you go in for regular check ups with your doctor? Do you have a balanced diet? Most college students will probably say no. It's really crucial to take care of your health, now because of obamacare young adults are allowed under their parents insurance until they're 26. However, when you get dropped off your parents insurance you don't want to be battling a bunch of health complications because you weren't taking care of yourself. Take advantage of your insurance, go in for annual check ups, stay on track with your health.

2. Learn how to cook.
The freshman fifteen can be avoided. Most people gain a lot of weight after high school because that year away from home is spent living off of ramen, hot pockets and fastfood. Do yourself a favor and pay attention to your Mom and Grandma in the kitchen so you can cook yourself balanced meals.


3. Look into getting a life insurance plan 
I know you're thinking, "why would I need a life insurance plan? I'm only in my twenties???? unnecessary bills??? no thanks????" well, a wise man once told me life's one big party when you're still young but who's gonna have your back when it's all done. It's great to start looking for life insurance now when you're in your 20's because the rates are more often than not going to be lower for you, because you're less likely TO DIE as opposed to getting it when you're 50 where you're more susceptible to diseases and viruses. If you purchase it when you're younger you lock in your premium, which is basically your payments being made towards your life insurance plan, and it will never go up, guarenteed. SO LOOK INTO GETTING LIFE INSURANCE BECAUSE YOLO

4. While we're on the topic of plans, seriously consider a 401k. What is a 401k? 
So I like just found out what a 401k was this past year so don't feel bad if you didn't know what it meant either, but if you did KUDOS 2 U. But basically a 401k is a reitrement plan. It's usually provided by employers, and what they do is take an amount out of every paycheck before taxes are subtracted and put that towards a retirement fund for you. You're in your 20's I get it, young entrepeuners are thinking about kick-starting their careers not ending it. The best example I could give of why you should invest is think of it this way: you begin saving at 25, right? putting away $2,000 a year for 40 years thats like $560, 000, assuming earnings grow at 8%. So it's a total no brainer, save a little now and reap big rewards duh. The reason a lot of young people don't do this is because a lot of 20 something year olds aren't told useful shit like this. EDUCATE THE MASSES.

5. Apply for credit cards.
PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY READ THIS THOUROUGHLY.
Do not go applying for like ten different credit cards. My advice just start out with one. When you're older you're going to start looking into things like buying a house, getting a car, or maybe even starting a small business, in order to do things like that you need good credit. How do you go about getting good credit? Credit cards are one way. As long as you use the card ONLY when you have the physical cash to pay it back promptly, credit cards can be a major tool in building credit scores.

6. Learn basic car maintenence. 
It's always nice to not be stranded in the middle of a bad horror movie with a flat tire and no cell signal. So do yourself a favor and learn basic car maintenence. Learn how to change the oil for your car and how to switch out a flat, nothing too fancy.

7. Fuck up.
I'm not telling you to get arrested or fly to Vegas with your high school sweetheart and elope. But I'm telling you to allow yourself some leeway to fuck up. When you're at this point in your life, no one is expecting much from you. That sounds rude but it's true. Allow yourself to make mistakes, to have fun, live a little because one day you will have a spouse and a job and children and though they won't be a ball and chain, you will never get the shot at the selfish freedom you're gifted in your 20's. You could wake up tomorrow if you wanted and fly to Paris because you said so and who's stopping you? You can do whatever you want so soak it up and revel in. Be selfish with your time and careful with your company.

How to Stay Organized by the Least Organized Girl in the World

One word: anxiety

One of the most dreaded, and hated words to be heard by someone dealing with depression or any serious mental illness, to be honest. Why am I talking about anxiety in an organization post? Because, in the roundabout circle of life, stress is one of the "invisible triggers" of anxiety and anyone dealing with it can relate to that. One of the ways to battle and counteract stress is staying organized. Dealing with my depression any little thing triggered it, being behind on my work in school, or being under too much pressure for a project, my room being messy, stuff like that. Well, dealing with all of that and with the help of some people in my life I figured out ways to cope with it and stay focused on fixing it rather than just worrying. Here are some helpful organization tips I compiled!


1. List, people. 
Collect your thoughts, and write down your biggest stressors at the moment. It doesn't necessarily have to be just things you need to get done like walking the dog for example. It can range from simple every day tasks to things like say, if you're in a toxic relationship or your friend is sad. Now narrow it down to things that are within your control. If you have no control over it, don't stress over it. Maybe the problem will escalate or maybe it'll end good for you but if it's out of your control what can you really do to fix it? Worrying does nothing!

2. Get a planner. 
Even when I was in high school I never used planners. I don't even know why I didn't but it was a stupid decision. Get a planner and write down EVERYTHING, at the end of the week go back and look through notes of time sensitive things you need to get done. What also helps is setting reminder on my phone because my scattered brainself still forgets to check every now and then. But, anyway, planners are great because they give you some semblance of order and its a great way to start your journey to being a cute girl (or boy) with their shit together.

P.S. TRY TO AVOID DRY ERASE/CHALK BOARDS. I only say this because they lack a sense of permanance. Try and stick to pads of paper and markers. 


3. Make your workspace cute! 
This seems a little weird but trust me it works! When I was going to school it was always really hard for me to focus on doing my homework or schoolwork in general because I never really had a desk. I was usually doing it in a busy kitchen or on my bed (worst places by the way.) Make your workplace something nice to look at. You'll definitely have fun sprucing it up! Put up pictures of friends and family, have framed inspirational quotes, make your laptop background of a city you want to live in some day (New York, LA, and Tokyo are all good choices!) but little touches to make it a more desirable space.

         

4. Get visual 
Like I said, I'm a very visual person. I like bright colors and city lights and all that fun stuff. So incorporating that into your life will help a lot. Try tacking up a bunch of positive quotes and happy things. I print mine out and frame them in neon picture frames. I have a whole album in my camera roll dedicated to city lights because thats where I see myself. Make your goals as visible as possible, photoshop yourself into a picture with Kanye and Kim if thats where you see yourself. The point is, seeing what you're working towards helps you to not lose sight of why you started in the first place.

             

5. Buy a red marker 
Buy a big fat marker and at the end of the day when you've finished a task put a nice big X over it. It seems silly but doing this gave me a feeling of accomplishment. Even if the task was small it was nice to see that red x over it, it was telling me that I was dedicated and getting shit done. (That's a lot for an inanimate object to say, I know, but still it proved true)

6. Be realistic in your daily planning

When planning short or long term it is really important you set realistic goals for yourself, otherwise it leads to disappointment and set backs. Try to take into account your budget, your time, and any other factor that could conflict with what you're trying to acheive! 

You can do this! Remember to believe in yourself and to always be kind! 

Free College Textbooks

I said in my last post that I was going to link the sites where I download free pdf textbooks. Here you go lovelies!!!

Ebookee 

Textbooknova

GaTech Math Textbooks

BookBoon

Oerconsortium

Gutenberg

GetFreeBooks

10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Freshman Year at College (with visual aids)

1. REGISTER FOR CLASSES EARLY 

For the love of all that is holy, register as soon as freshman registration opens. I know it's summer and you want to put it off for another week. Don't. Do. IT. Because it will be horrible and you will stand in lines all day in a hot, small office with a hundred other procrastinating students like yaself. 

2. Dont try and get a matching schedule with your friend. It will suck and you will cry. 

Freshman year is crazy, everyone is trying to get the classes they need and for some unexplainable reason the open slots to freshman ratio is like 500023039430583498 to 10. Like I was saying, its crazy enough without trying to get every class with your BFF. It's cool to get a few classes here and there with people you know, but overall it's not worth the stress of having an 8am class and then a 5pm class just to be with your friend. Take the oppurtunity to branch out and meet new people! There are like a thousand other freshman scared like you, so bond over your fear!!!! 

3. Highschool rules don't apply 

Nobody cares about what you're doing. Like literally, no one. They're all just trying to get in, go to class and get their ass out of there. So all anxiety you've built up to this moment, forget about because everyones too busy being stressed out or freaked out or hungover to worry about who slept with who and who wore what. 

4. You will change your major five billion times

Don't freak out about not knowing what you want to do or changing your major more than once. It is totally okay to be picky and a little indecisive when it comes to what you want to do with the rest of your life, dawg. In fact it's bound to happen to everyone atleast once or twice or like me, five or six times. However, everyone is on the same boat as you, you ARE NOT ALONE!!!! (Actually, if there were anymore people on the "I'm changing my major boat" it would capsize and we'd all drown in our tears and the social pressure that comes with deciding on a career path) But no pressure. 

5. Network for study guides

Its the beginning of the year and you're sitting there with your super cute school supplies and your hairs really cute and curled and you have two seatmates, a girl with really cute jefferey cambells and a really hot guy who kinda seems like he'd be into you given a little push. Who do you talk to? The answer is NEITHER. Get the fuck away from them. They're distractions. Go sit in the front of the class and make friends up there because come midterms they will have the best notes and you can exchange and even talk about going half on a study guide. This will take the time out of making the study guide and allow you more time to actually study that shit. 

6. LOOK FOR THE PDF VERSION OF YOUR TEXTBOOKS ONLINE

Thats pretty self explanatory so I'm going to go ahead and list links to sites that offer free pdf version of books so maybe you can save a little money this school year and go get drunk. 

7. Don't obsess over meeting goals by a certain age 

Let me give you the age old advice and tell you SHIT HAPPENS. You fail classes, you get into unhealthy relationships, you have heartbreaks. Bottom line, life is messy, things will happen that are out of your control and you will fuck up. Don't be discouraged by that. That is life and your mistakes and fuck ups will ultimately lead you down the path you were meant to go down and offer you things better than what you originally wanted. 

8. Remember D.F.Y. 

Don't fuck yourself. (I don't mean this in the literal context, you can do whatever you want) Work on budgeting and time management. Whether you're moving away from home or staying and attending a local university, community college, etc. Do not fuck yourself by not sufficiently preparing for when you do actually leave. These are basic life skills you will NEED. I compiled a list of tips that helped me get my spending undercontrol, one of them was to PARENTAL BLOCK URBAN OUTFITTERS ON MY COMPUTER BECAUSE I AM TERRIBLE I CAN'T. 

 

D.F.Y. is my Hakuna Matata. I make tons of rash decisions that I know will ultimately fuck me but I want it and I'm used to getting what I want so I do it. Yeah, so I learned to stop doing that because in the long run it was things like I didnt want to go to class or I wanted to use the money for the waterbill to buy shoes on Urban Outfitters so kids, don't forget D.F.Y. 

9. Join Clubs 

I know you just want to go in do your credit hours and then go back home and watch Netflix but stop it, stop it RIGHT NOW. No but really, grades are great and all but companys ultimately look for well-rounded students with extra-curriculars and tons of leadership skills because they make great interns. 

10. Take a class for fun 

My dear and lovely over-acheiver, please don't forget to take a load off. Take a fun class! Theater or art or philosophy (depending on your professor of course.) These classes are the ultimate stress relievers, to get to go in and interact and not feel the weight of the world crashing down on your shoulders. Who knows you might even make some friends that you can relate to over the multiple mental breakdowns you've had throughout the semester! 

College is great and a super awesome oppurtunity to test your social skills and meet wonderful people and make cool memories. So study, and stay on track but dont ever forget to have fun! C'est la vie and all!!!!! 

living with a mental illness

Hello lovelies! You may or may not know that Nat'l Suicide Prevention day just passed 4 days ago (Sep. 10) and I thought it would be really important to focus my very first blog post on mental illnesses and the importance of taking care of your mental health. 

This is something I take very seriously and I can't stress enough how important it is! I've struggled with depression for almost four years and still do to this day. The medical terminology would be "a chemical imbalance" but how I describe it is depression isn't just being sad, it's not crying a lot or wearing all black. It's a disease that takes an emotional and physical toll on you. It's being unable to get out of bed because it physically feels like you can't, even just getting in the shower is a small feat. You're exhausted, and frustrated and you basically just give up. And honestly, it seems like nothing short of a miracle will get you to a place where you're stronger and happy. But as someone whose dealt with all of these issues I'm here to tell you it IS possible. Just like every illness out there there IS a cure, you just have to work hard to find it. Here a few simple lessons I picked up struggling with my illness. 

1. Pinpoint your trigger 

A trigger is basically something that sets off your depression, or causes you to be sad. The first step is really important because no matter what you're doing to try and help yourself, if you keep whatever's triggering your depression in your life, you're just counteracting all that hardwork. Now a trigger could be say, a friend who's really mean to you, or maybe staying in an abusive relationship. Now that you've figured that out it's time for the tough part:  getting rid of your trigger. It's going to be hard, maybe even painful but in the long run it's better for your sanity and emotional wellness! 

2. The "cure" isnt the same for everyone. 

For some people working out helps them deal with their depression  (endorphins are totally awesome though and you should try to incorporate this into a routine) for others it's God, going to church, or maybe painting. Basically find your cure. How do you do that? Simple! You try everything duh, silly. To have a true understanding of depression or even sadness you'd have to have been happy at some point right? Well think back to that time! What were little things that made you smile? Was it hanging out with friends, doodling, listening to music? Figure that out and then expand on it! For example, have a sleepover or buy a canvas and spend the day painting, buy a concert ticket to see your favorite band! 

3. Don't be so hard on yourself (love yourself)

Personally in my endevor to get better, this was definitely the hardest part. I mean, what is there to love about myself? And anyway isn't it vain to compliment yourself? ..... WRONG. There is nothing vain or conceited about self-love!!!! Loving yourself is a basic need. And  a definite important step in the road to recovery. I struggled with hating myself, hating my body image, and honestly just thinking I was a total waste of space. I still struggle to this day with body image issues but now I realize I have so many amazing qualities that I didn't even see because I stayed in that dark hole of depression, I didn't let myself explore my talents because they were too scary to me or I feared rejection. So what I'm saying is lose yourself in yourself. I know that doesn't make sense but let me explain, when I was working on self discovery a couple of months ago I deleted all of my social media (twitter, facebook, everything) and I spent that time without distraction discovering and honing my talents. It was one of the best things I could do for myself and I strongly recommend it!

4. Have a true and realistic understanding of happiness 

True happiness isn't the universe doing everything in your favor, it's not a perfect life with no bumps in the road, it's not even always being happy. What true happiness is is life giving you ups and downs and you're strong enough to deal with it. You're in a place where you're able to cope with the downs that come with life because you're finally seeing the bigger picture and things were put in perspective for you, it's realizing yes there are going to be days where I'm too sad to get out of bed but life is beautiful and it has more to offer than those days, so I'm going to try again tomorrow. It's embracing life and abandoning fear and accepting that rejection is a definite possibility but I promise you it only gets better with age. Not because the world changes it's view of you or decides one day that "hey I didn't realize how amazing and smart and funny that person is I should kiss the ground they walk on." It's you changing your view of the world and seeing how amazing and smart and funny YOU are and understanding that you don't NEED people to kiss the ground you walk on because you love yourself and screw them if they don't like you because you love yourself enough for the both of you